Blame and Pain

Have you ever been blamed?
Have you ever blamed someone?

Probably we all did…. Both ways!

Being blamed is a painful experience.

Blaming someone too is painful.

Only if I am hurt by someone’s behavior will I blame them.

Only if some is hurt by my behavior will I get blamed.

Weather I blamed someone consciously or unconsciously doesn’t matter….

The pain is there.

It hurts.

It’s a shock, a painful shock.

How can I avoid the blame game?

By asking questions.

By avoiding assumptions.

With compassion for the other person.

However, the pain remains.

How do I handle such a situation?

Old me

Cry, get angry, upset, furious, scream and shout etc, ending up depressed.

New me

Do a RAP, cry

Do another RAP cry some more

Do one more RAP, go for a walk

Its not a fun walk but the energy has shifted.

Breathing deeply and releasing the tension.

And sometimes life shows me something that will cheer me up.

Have a wonderful day,

See the wonders on your way!

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